Motherhood

What to do when you feel like a failure

Sometimes laundry won’t get done.

Sometimes ramen or left over makes the menu multiple times a week.

Sometimes the house is a mess and drives you insane.

It is okay.

You aren’t a failure. Remember that.

You are allowed to not be perfect or not be supermom.

As a perfectionist, I can tell you it’s a hard pill to swallow.

That meal plan doesn’t always work out or you just don’t have the energy.

I run late more than ever with a toddler diva that practically runs the house (and trashes it )

The world thinks I got it all figured out and I’m super mom. Nope.

Hate to break it to you. I’m far from perfect, between taking anxiety meds, working third shift and being a step mom my life is never boring.

What about you ?

So here’s some tips and insight on how to avoid that gut wrenching feeling of failure.

Look at what you have accomplished

Whether that means the beautiful babies you made or raised. (I’m a step mom )

What you have done this week.

Everyone has what they need.

You step up to the plate and do what needs done normally

At least 95 percent of the time you are on the ball.

All the appointments are lined up for doc and teachers. You’re on top of the world.

Then comes the dreaded times where you’re late and have to reschedule, you straight up miss appointments and you just feel plain awful.

It happens, and that’s okay that you missed that appointment. It’s okay you ran late. ( I definitely wouldn’t do it too much or the place might make you go elsewhere. )

The point is it is completely okay to not be on top of that ball. It’s a serious balancing act that drains you.

Take a breath and just reflect

I know this emphasises the first two. I can’t stress how important it is to do this.

There are so many things we do as moms daily that the typical person can’t even fathom doing in a week.

Don’t compare your self, find a mom like you with a similar scenario if possible

Talk to another mom in a similar situation, I say this because every mom is unique.

You may become discouraged talking to a mom with fewer kids than you or is a stay at home mom by choice.

Nothing wrong with any type of mom I just feel like if I talk to a mom with one child and doesn’t have to work, meanwhile I work third shift and have 3 kids total her life will sound easier and better.

I would feel totally discouraged, because she has more time to do everything and her house is in order.

The situations are two completely different scenarios and comparing my self to a mom that has a different situation isn’t good.

As a mom, we hold ourselves at a high standard and stretch ourselves beyond our natural limits for our families.

When we reach the point of total burnout and look around when things fall behind we feel like we are failing.

In all actuality we are just exhausted and a break is totally okay and is necessary for sanity. (At least for me)

Just remember mommy needs a break too! Also remember you’re not a failure.

Just sit down with a cup of wine, tea, or coffee and enjoy for a minute or two.

Snuggle up with your little one and enjoy.

Not only do you need a break the mess will happen again and again but their childhood won’t.

Hi there! I'm Cassie, a mom to three wonderful children. I blog and potty train by day, and work third shift full time by night. I help moms like you by finding ways to save money and keep life organized.

Cassie

Hi there! I'm Cassie, a mom to three wonderful children. I blog and potty train by day, and work third shift full time by night. I help moms like you by finding ways to save money and keep life organized.

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