Since I’ve started this blog my entire goal has been to support all moms out there, I wanted to place a spotlight on the moms that stepped up.
I’m a mom of three total, one is my own the other two are from my fiance’s first marriage.
About two and a half years ago, I had a big decision to make shortly after having my first child.
Which by the way I was told that having children was out of the question for me. We received some big news that his children needed to be placed in their fathers care due to a bad situation they were in beforehand.
I was now going from being a mom of one to a mom of three!
My first reaction
was joy, of course since my fiance had not seen his kids all that much after getting out of the military.
After further thought, I was nerve-wracked, at the age of 20 there would be a full family under the roof. I must say it was better for them to move in after moving from Pennsylvania to Ohio, instead of beforehand.
Things were going to change big time, I was trying to breastfeed my daughter and still learn how to be a mother to my own instead of sibling type care.
In the beginning, it was heartbreaking to see a six and nine-year-old not be able to properly care for themselves. I was recovering from my own battles, we all were.
At first, it felt like the situation was complicated and we would be judged for it. Which we were, but it didn’t matter. We were kicking a$$ as parents, taking the initiative and giving them the care they desperately needed.
My fiance is a veteran that had three deployments. He felt terrible for not being there through their early childhood, and he felt bad about it. Especially with the things that occurred out of his control during deployment.
For the longest time, the mother had others believing that he was a bad person, when in fact she was the one not properly raising them. I’m happy to say the truth has finally surfaced, I just hope for their sake that she comes around and gets the assistance she needs.
She has not bothered to call or try to keep in contact with them in the past 2 years. It’s sad really.
After years of intensive counseling, routine, and care we have been able to get them on track for the most part, with the exception of some minor speech problems.
Being there when they needed it most
At this point in time, after two years they have grown into my heart. So, I created a letter for them. Letter to my step-children.
For the longest time, I was afraid to talk about all of this. Not anymore, I realized there are moms out there like me in some way shape or form. I felt alone for a long time, loneliness is a terrible thing especially with a full platter that you don’t even know how to dish out.
I want the loneliness to be over, you are NOT alone momma, we are in this together.
Every day we give one thousand percent, spread ourselves thin because that’s just love.
Maybe someday I’ll have the courage to dish more specific details. I just want all you mothers out there to know you don’t have to do this alone.